My thoughts exactly (not that I'm an expert -- far from!) and I think what the therapist could have said instead was to stop focusing on sex and get intimate on an emotional level first. Unless the sex is only for starting a family, in which case there are the usual other methods that obstetricians recommend if the man can't perform, we need to appreciate, admire, explore, and be lovingly playful with our partner's bodies. There are multiple erogenous zones besides the genitals just waiting to be stimulated. And because I'm not an expert, I'll stop there. Wishing you rewarding results!