This resonates. My mistake was to expect a kumbaya with the person(s) with whom I hoped to heal. Never happened. Never will. I was left with the responsibility to mend damages and carry the relationship forward while carrying a self-accusatory “shop sign” around my neck (you know the kind that advertise some product like “Try our finger-lickin’ juicy freedom fries! Half-price today only!’). C’est la vie. Live and learn.